Beautifully expressed. It will be so wonderful when we can greet everyone as fellow human beings without al, th skin colour, gender etc crap. It is so painful to treat each other this way. I realize this is unlikely but it absolutely informs my every move and thought. Naïve perhaps but living in the other universe is worse.
Thank you for taking the time to read. Andi thank you for being intentionally leaning into the imaginative capacity it takes to look toward a world that can be while in the midst of seeming contradiction. I believe that our healing is inevitable but not forced on us.
I left my wife after two months of marriage and we were both in the Navy and she was pregnant and my son from that marriage was now over 50 and I did not raise and was not with him until maybe 20 years ago holds animus towards me and doesn’t admit it except when he’s asking for money and I cannot give it to him And I feel bad wish I could’ve done something different. Should have done something different but I don’t know what I can do and I wish he could come to terms with the fact that he didn’t cause his mother and myself to split up, but he’s holding so much anger. It’s hard to be at all around Timmy, so careless and bitter and angry at the world
I’m sorry that you and Timmy have had such a long reconciliation process. I can say that one thing that helped with my dad and me was that he did get vulnerable with me over time and tell me about his relationship with his dad or lack of it. He used to tell me that it was a miracle that he could feel love for me at all because his dad never loved him. In fact, he believed his dad hated him. So he made some progress by being involved in my life at all according to the theory that made sense to him. I had to accept that. Letting myself heal was omnidirectional cleaning both my ancestors past, my present, and my descendants future. If you forgive yourself and let yourself heal, it will do the same. And perhaps Timmy will feel it to. Be an invitation to healing. It’s up to him to go through the door. But, you can open it and keep it open. Praying for healing for you both.
Beautifully expressed. It will be so wonderful when we can greet everyone as fellow human beings without al, th skin colour, gender etc crap. It is so painful to treat each other this way. I realize this is unlikely but it absolutely informs my every move and thought. Naïve perhaps but living in the other universe is worse.
Thank you for taking the time to read. Andi thank you for being intentionally leaning into the imaginative capacity it takes to look toward a world that can be while in the midst of seeming contradiction. I believe that our healing is inevitable but not forced on us.
https://open.substack.com/pub/pedrosenhorinhasilva/p/become-a-we?r=52fok8&utm_medium=ios
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I left my wife after two months of marriage and we were both in the Navy and she was pregnant and my son from that marriage was now over 50 and I did not raise and was not with him until maybe 20 years ago holds animus towards me and doesn’t admit it except when he’s asking for money and I cannot give it to him And I feel bad wish I could’ve done something different. Should have done something different but I don’t know what I can do and I wish he could come to terms with the fact that he didn’t cause his mother and myself to split up, but he’s holding so much anger. It’s hard to be at all around Timmy, so careless and bitter and angry at the world
Hey John,
I’m sorry that you and Timmy have had such a long reconciliation process. I can say that one thing that helped with my dad and me was that he did get vulnerable with me over time and tell me about his relationship with his dad or lack of it. He used to tell me that it was a miracle that he could feel love for me at all because his dad never loved him. In fact, he believed his dad hated him. So he made some progress by being involved in my life at all according to the theory that made sense to him. I had to accept that. Letting myself heal was omnidirectional cleaning both my ancestors past, my present, and my descendants future. If you forgive yourself and let yourself heal, it will do the same. And perhaps Timmy will feel it to. Be an invitation to healing. It’s up to him to go through the door. But, you can open it and keep it open. Praying for healing for you both.